In a constellation in which I had recently the opportunity to participate came a very beautiful image.
The patient (an adult) tells how much dedication and "fight" to help their brothers and in general the members of his family. Endeavors, we show people how good it performs all actions (even things that they do not ask). And still unhappy. Still feel bad. And still do not see the results of their titanic struggle.
in when she approached his brothers, they moved away. If she went to the north, they went south. If she went south, they went north. This approach left the bewildered woman. "Why move away from me? What I do not watch? If I just want to help them ..." were some of his phrases.
addition, we added a representative secret (no one knew who he was). It was the fate of the patient. The representative of the fate of the patient stated that he wanted to go and that was something that made heavy will lie on the floor. After a few minutes, sat on the floor. I had no strength. I was absolutely crushed. The client or patient looked at his destination, was watching the members of his family.
Beyond the "solution" in this constellation or the movement system, there are two important aspects that I would highlight:
The first is the powerful idea that it is not necessary to fight too much nor too hard to belong to our family. We have this card and the membership gained from mommy and daddy make love and she becomes pregnant. It is a card that gives me just flat this planet and that, even if you delete it, spend it, abuse it is always current and serve. Not much to do to belong to my family. Only agree to it as is.
The second thought is about this so important that it is "looking at my destination." If I'm so involved in the fate of the other or others and do not look at me, what happens to my destination? What are the consequences? The interesting thing is that makes you do, nobody will take care of my fate for me, or maybe yes, someone who loves me a lot (like a brother or a son) and that any price.
If the family is an orchestra and everyone plays an instrument ... find your instrument, your own, own, that you touched. And play it better than anyone! Dale with all your strength that is your destination. Do not try to play the instrument of another. Too much for you.
One last idea: take with pride and dignity the card that we had in our family. It is unique and gave us the best: those who came before us.
Raiza Ramirez
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